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You're not lonely when You're lonely | Reticent Heart blog

Hi everyone!

I just want to say a quick thanks before you all join my couch chronicles. Najida is such an awesome person with an awesome blog! Her content is amazing and so relatable for teenagers! I can only hope that one day my posts appeal to you in the same way that Najida’s posts have appealed to me.


Today, I just want to share with you all a recent event that happened to me that changed my life for the better. I learned something about myself and I learned something about how the world operates.

I’m an introvert.

There is no other way to say it.  I prefer to sit in the back of the classroom and never say a word. I prefer to email my teachers about questions that I need answers to instead of just raising my hand in class. I prefer to hang out with one friend at a time, two at most. And I’d rather skip that party to stay home and blog or relax on my couch reading a book.

I’m an introvert and I have come to terms with it. Being introverted isn’t necessarily a bad thing unless being that way begins to affect your social life completely.

That’s exactly what has happened to me.

As I was viewing everyone Snapchat stories, I couldn’t help but feel empty inside as I watched two of my friends “hanging out” while I was home. I couldn’t help by feel ugly as I watched a friend of mine take 30 bathroom selfies with her nice up-do and freshly beat face. I couldn’t help but feel lonely as I watched some of my friends sit around the dinner table at our favorite restaurant while I was still at home waiting for the invite.

I felt lonely and really like any teenage girl, I just wanted to disappear.

What’s wrong with me? Why aren’t I the same happy, full of life person I was a few weeks ago? Why did I feel ugly? Why did I feel so alone?

Whenever I start to feel out of myself I take a few deep breaths and drink some water to relax. I curl up on the couch and nap. This time, I didn’t. Sometime just told me not to.

I kept reminding myself all day that I needed to buy a former teacher of mines eBook that went on sale a couple weeks ago. Manda Carpenter, one of my favorite teachers and bloggers has been someone I looked up for a while now. Her style of writing, fashion and her relationship with the God have inspired me to be real and true to myself no matter what.

I purchased her eBook, Letters of Encouragement. The first topic was a letter written to me and you and everyone else about loneliness.

It started with this quote: “We sometimes think we want to disappear, but all we really want is to be found.”


That really did it for me.

One quote described exactly how I was feeling and this got me to think about a lot of different things. Feeling the way I have been feeling is normal. I’m normal. I have feelings and one thing I know for sure is that writing helps me get those feelings out.

It’s okay to not feel at my best and it’s okay to want the attention of other people. After reading the letter, I learned that if I ever need a friend, God will always be there for me even when I don’t feel like it.

You see… Sometimes we don’t want to let other people in and sometimes we don’t want others to know about our problems but maybe sometimes other people are who need in order to figure life out. Besides, even the best of us can’t do it alone.

Thank you all so much for taking the time to read my post today! Thank you Najida for responding as quickly as you did and allowing me the opportunity to write to your followers!

About Keiana

My name is Keiana and I am the author of Reticent Heart Blog:

I blog about all sorts of things in hopes of reaching out to everyone. If you’d like to get to know me as a blogger, please be sure to follow my couch chronicles! I post once a week or once every two weeks. Please, also like, comment your thoughts and share to others what has gotten across to you in a positive way.

If you enjoyed this post today, you might also like My Skin Is My SinAn Open Letter To My Dead Father by me and Full House (The POC Version) written by my blogging partner. Thank you all so much!

Thank you Keiana for writing such a lovely post which i certainly can relate to. Make sure to follow Keiana as she is a fabulous blogger and deserves way more followers. Have a lovely day everyone.
😘The Average Gurl


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  • introvertedrelationships

    I love this and can so totally relate. Don’t get me wrong, I can be social and love spending time with friends but there is time that I just need to stay in by myself. But there are times that I feel like I get left out of events as well, perhaps because of my quietness or something else, I’m not sure, but it does make me feel lonely. When I decide to stay in or when I am left out, it makes me feel lonely and others don’t seem to understand it.

    September 30, 2017 at 11:26 pm Reply
    • Life As Najida

      I can so relate to! Try to be as involved as you can and if you don’t, don’t worry about it. Occupy yourself with a book or film and hopefully you will not feel lonely. My Instagram is @lifeasnajida so if you ever need to talk to someone, just give me a dm and I will reply x

      September 30, 2017 at 11:34 pm Reply
      • introvertedrelationships

        It may be the middle of the night, but I’m feeling the left out bits now, may just take you up on that offer to talk another time though

        October 1, 2017 at 9:27 am Reply
  • Simply Sayyida

    This post is so meaningful 🙂

    July 19, 2017 at 1:54 pm Reply
    • Life As Najida

      It is 🙂

      July 19, 2017 at 2:03 pm Reply
    • Keiana

      I am so glad you enjoyed it!

      July 24, 2017 at 1:38 am Reply
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  • A brunette blogger

    LOVED THIS POST !!❤️❤️

    July 4, 2017 at 10:32 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      Glad you liked the post💞

      July 5, 2017 at 6:11 am Reply
    • Keiana

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it! -Keiana xoxo

      July 10, 2017 at 11:03 pm Reply
  • Liv Sampson

    I nominated you for the Mystery Blogger Award! ❤ Check it out here:

    July 3, 2017 at 2:36 am Reply
  • ItsSimplyMeJasmine

    Wow…I found this to be insanely relatable. I feel exactly the same and have the exact same issues and the sad thing is…I don’t know how to fix it😔 It’s nice to know that someone else struggles with the same thing, that helps a bit🙂

    July 2, 2017 at 9:12 pm Reply
  • Zacora

    lovely post

    July 2, 2017 at 8:38 pm Reply
  • outnaboutweb

    I can totally relate to that! Snapchat stories can be really downing. But I always have to remeber myslef, some people are sharing every second on snapchat when they’re meeting people and I simply don’t. They seem to always be surrounded by people, but they simply don’t share the lonely moments!
    love, elena

    July 2, 2017 at 7:40 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      I’ve never thought about it in that way! Thank you for being so reassuring x

      July 2, 2017 at 9:14 pm Reply
    • reticentheartblog

      You’re so right, Nadija is right too, I’ve never thought about it like that! So glad you can relate! -Keiana

      July 3, 2017 at 5:05 am Reply
  • Adeoluwa

    Thanks for sharing. I’m currently going through the same thing. All my friends are in different city and I see them flexing on Snapchat and I’m just like ‘why am I here’ well it’s getting better now though.

    July 2, 2017 at 7:25 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      Same! It just makes me so sad and o just feel like I need a new start. Hence why I’m gonna use college as an opportunity to have a new start xx

      July 2, 2017 at 9:13 pm Reply
      • Adeoluwa

        So true, I hope you have a lot of fun in college tho.

        July 2, 2017 at 9:18 pm Reply
        • The Average Gurl

          Thank you😊 I hope you find your way out of this situation xx

          July 2, 2017 at 9:20 pm Reply
          • Adeoluwa

            I sure will 😉 #hopeful

            July 2, 2017 at 9:25 pm
    • reticentheartblog

      I get it. I wrote this because I knew others needed to know we are in this together! Thank you so much for the follow! ❤️ if you ever need a friend, I’m here for you! -Keiana

      July 3, 2017 at 5:04 am Reply
      • The Average Gurl

        I’m so happy that people are following your blog Keiana! You deserve it as your writing is so beautiful!💞

        July 3, 2017 at 6:03 am Reply
      • Adeoluwa

        Thank you so much 😊

        July 3, 2017 at 7:04 am Reply
        • reticentheartblog

          Of course! If you also have a blog or website, send me the link! I’d love to check it out! 🙂

          July 3, 2017 at 7:05 am Reply
          • Adeoluwa

   I recently started a blog and thanks again

            July 3, 2017 at 7:07 am
          • reticentheartblog

            Okay! I’ll take a look right now!

            July 3, 2017 at 7:08 am
  • girly blogger

    this was such a lovely post <3 beautiful words they are so touching and deep. this is also sooo relatable!

    July 2, 2017 at 7:07 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      I agree, thank you for reading Keianas post xx

      July 2, 2017 at 9:12 pm Reply
    • reticentheartblog

      Thank you so much and thank you so much for the follow! Your blog is also great, new follower right here! -Keiana

      July 3, 2017 at 5:02 am Reply
  • Tatiana

    I adored this post!! I loved how deep and meaningful it was💗 Can’t wait to follow your blog and thank you to Najida for introducing me to her!!

    July 2, 2017 at 6:29 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      I agree! And your welcome lovely xx

      July 2, 2017 at 6:32 pm Reply
    • reticentheartblog

      Thank you Tatiana! I’m trying to follow your blog now! You’re great! -Keiana

      July 3, 2017 at 5:02 am Reply
      • Tatiana

        Thank you so much!!!💗💗

        July 3, 2017 at 5:49 am Reply
  • Liv Sampson

    I can definitely relate to this! Sometimes when my friends want me to hang out with them or they want to come over and hang out with me, I would always say, “No thanks, maybe later”. I’m just glad that there are more people out there who feels the same way as me. ❤

    July 2, 2017 at 4:10 pm Reply
  • smilingdreamer

    Wow. 😍 This is really deep, touching and meaningful! I can totally 100% relate to this! I’m grateful that there are others out there who feel the same. I really really LOVE this & enjoyed reading! ❤️❤️❤️ You might want to check out my post “A Girl Who Loves To Be Different” where I share my views on this same important topic! 😊😊

    July 2, 2017 at 4:02 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      Isn’t it wow! I can so relate to the situation to of Keianas point of view x

      July 2, 2017 at 4:20 pm Reply
    • reticentheartblog

      I would love to check it out! I’m so happy you can relate, we’re all the same whether we realize it or not. 😁 -Keiana

      July 3, 2017 at 5:01 am Reply
  • _lucy_

    Wow, this really effected me. I can really relate to you because I feel the same. I say “no I’m busy” a lot to my friends when they ask me if I want to go out with them. It’s not like I don’t want to be with my friends, it’s just I feel like I am almost scared to. Thank you for letting me know that someone else feels similar to the way I do x

    July 2, 2017 at 3:36 pm Reply
    • The Average Gurl

      I so agree to! I feel your pain to. I want to thank Keina for doing such a relatable post. I f

      July 2, 2017 at 4:20 pm Reply
    • reticentheartblog

      You’re welcome! I find truth in my feelings and writing helps me express that. No one is alone in this world no matter what. You ever need a friend, please reach out to me! -Keiana 😌

      July 3, 2017 at 5:00 am Reply
      • _lucy_

        Awh that’s very kind of you, here for if you ever need a chat too x

        July 4, 2017 at 5:19 pm Reply
  • CassieMorganM

    I loved this post so much!

    July 2, 2017 at 3:35 pm Reply
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